One of my internet friends, Gary Taylor @ GENDADS, generously used a comment of mine in a post discussing one of the hidden dangers of public “leadership.”
Thanks to TIVO, Carolyn and I completed our interaction on true legacy reported in my last post, then went back to the “60 Minuutes” piece on Nelson Mandela. What an extraordinary man. The last 15 seconds spoiled the story, though. The last few words still has me pondering.
Mandela knowingly sacrificed his children and abandoned them to real suffering to save the “millions who suffered as well.” I know, sadly, leaders in missions and ministry who were on call to save the world and lost their children.
I got this reply from a friend whose blog, “A Pauper in the Court of the King“. I urge you to slowly read through his short, deep, clear piece. What he says is far more central to godly family life and legacy.
“Gary, you raise a very good point. The clear answer from scripture (the example of Eli the priest is a case in point) is that if you fail in your family – you fail period. God never calls a man to win the thousands at the expense of his family. Your first ministry is at HOME and if you fail there you are absolutely disqualified from leadership in the church of the Living God (Titus 1:6, 1 Tim 3:4-5)
The first and primary congregation that a man (EVERY man) is called to pastor and serve is the one born in his own home when he and his bride say “I do”. To ignore, slight, or fail here is to build with wood, hay and stubble which WILL be borne away in the judgment fire (1 Cor 3:10-15). To “lead” others without shepherding your own family is merely performing for the praise of men.
May God have mercy on me so that I might be found faithful in my home even if it means being derelict everywhere else. – The Pauper”